Life gets crazy. Date nights can easily turn into grocery lists and meal planning. Don’t get us wrong—your guy grocery shopping is pretty hot—but it’s easy to get lost in the nitty-gritty of daily life and forget to slow down and take some time to bond with your partner. Mostly, we focus on the present. This is healthy and good, but it’s easy to forget that your partner lived experienced a lot of life before you found each other. You may think you know everything about each other, but if you go far enough back, you’re guaranteed to learn stories you have not heard before. We all become the people we are today because of the experiences we have lived. Taking some time to get to know even more about your partner will bring you both closer.
Get away from distractions. This could be a weekend getaway to a cheap hotel or a night in. Just find a simple way to be with your partner without the usual disruptions of life. Find somewhere quiet, put away your phones (even better, turn them off) and focus on each other. Even an hour or two is refreshing and gives you the chance to go a little deeper with your spouse.
Take a (literal) trip down memory lane. If possible, take him to your favorite childhood spots. It could be something simple, like your middle school, or even the park at which you spent so many hours growing up. Show him around and share the stories that the places bring to mind.
Find a photo album. Pull out the home videos or spend a night at your parents’ house digging through a box of grainy photos that make you feel older than you actually are. It’s amazing to catch glimpses of your partner growing up and taking a walk down memory lane yourself.
Invite your cousins over for dinner. If you’re brave enough, that is. We still dread those moments when a parent shares about that time you got your head stuck between fence posts or your tongue stuck to a pole on a cold day. Cousins, on the other hand, shared a childhood with you, and have more war stories to share than you can imagine. From getting caught sneaking out to camping in the backyard together, cousins can share more about your childhood with your spouse than you may even remember. Just make sure the wine is flowing and you are ready for belly-aching laughs.
Just tell each other stories. Don’t be afraid to be honest. He’ll be glad to laugh at your funny stories or listen to the hard, coming-of-age moments in your childhood. Dedicating time to continuing to get to know each other, even if it is over your regular Monday night frozen pizza, will only make your bond stronger.
Enjoy the insight into each other’s stories and lives before you met. You will make so many memories together in the future, but it’s the best when you can really know the person with whom you are making these memories.